To open 2013, I wanted to share one of my favorite weddings from 2012… slash, ever. Patty and Lino were so personal, I think that is the first thing I noticed when we talked during the initial consultation. That is the perfect word to describe the entire day. Personal. Their wedding was full of emotion, and family, tears, boisterous laughter, and the kind of moments a wedding photographer dreams of. This is one of the most memorable weddings I have ever had the pleasure of photographing, and that isn’t a slight against the others I have been a part of, it just had something extra to it that I really couldn’t describe if I wanted to. However, trying to put my finger on what it is that resonates with me, as well as the other weddings I feel this way about. I have come to this conclusion. Listen up, couples. I know this isn’t earth-shattering news… but, raw, honest emotion beats fancy details and killer venues every day of the week (although they had great locations, to boot). A genuine laugh gets more attention on my blog from other people than a $3000 dress does. Now, that isn’t to say that people don’t appreciate amazing locations and expensive dresses. Of course they do. The point is this, when recounting “favorite” weddings, they inevitably are the ones where people let go and feel things deeply, then let that emotion show. I posted a family portrait, which I have never done in a blog post, because I just couldn’t separate the pretty stuff from the personal stuff. Family felt as crucial to the story as anything else, just wait for the speeches and dancing. One word. Macarons. Patty gave her father a note stitched on a hankie… and I think Papi approved. The recipients of the garter and bouquet doing some sort of reverse garter removal. The dancing. Oh my, the dancing. My point is this. Couples (grooms!), love each other deeply and don’t be afraid to show it. Your great grandchildren will thank you as they thumb through your wedding images.

I’m not trying to preach. I’m trying to set the stage for how much I love this wedding, and these two people. Here are some things to be on the lookout for. Patty’s dress hanging in front of her childhood home. That one kills me because of the symbolism. Marcelino getting ready in the middle of a public park! Haha, that is the best groom prep location ever. The butterflies were woven throughout the park, and for me, they added a magical quality to the walk we took during the portraits. DC in late summer is hot. And muggy. Just ask the sax man. It rained, which would normally help the situation in Oregon, where I am from. This is not the case the further east you go. 🙂 The cultural nuances added so much to the day, especially the dancing. The dancing felt essential. It felt shared. I loved how communal and frenetic the dancing was, and not because people were drunk, it was because it’s a part of them. The reception was in her parents’ back yard, and there is nowhere else I could imagine it being. They wanted personal. They wanted family. They wanted people to feel at home, and I know I did. The reception area was tented (thank you, rain 🙂 ) and the borders were lined with photos of friends and family, clothes-pinned to twine. It was probably 10 minutes of wandering around, looking at all of the images, imagining the connections and stories, before I realized I should probably come up with a plan for me and my extra-fantastic second shooter, Aileen Reilly. Feeling immersed in someone else’s life is the best way I can describe this wedding.

Finally, we decided to go down to the National Mall at midnight, and see some of the monuments. Sure, we got kicked out, but it was the perfect way to end the night, and I will never forget it.

Thank you Aileen, for shooting with me. Thank you, DC Park Police officer, for being easy on us. Most of all… thank you to Patty and Marcelino, along with your families, for inviting me to be a part of your lives. Felicidades.




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  • lydia {ever ours}“raw, honest emotion beats fancy details and killer venues every day of the week” amen. and you did just that with this wedding.

  • Aileen Reillyperfection. gosh I loved this wedding.

  • Meg Manion Sillikerjay – you are magnificent. so very talented behind your lens. you manage to make me feel like i am right there with you. gorgeous imagery, so touching and beautiful. bravo to you. can’t imagine you topping this in 2013, but somehow i know you will. because you are you!!!

  • Kathy LopesThis is so beautiful <3.

  • Enrique GarciaThese are amazing pictures! So happy for Patty and Marcelino! Love u guys!

  • Sidney Morgan Photographythis is just too good.

  • Lisa MaxwellThese pictures made me cry. I feel like I was at the wedding. So many to love – the butterfly, the note, Marcelino & his mom, Patty & her dad, the purple shoes, the black & whites, but most of all, your faces in all of the pictures. Some of these could & should be wedding greeting cards. xoxox

  • NikiSimply Lovely! Congrats to you both 🙂

  • Marina GrossBeautiful, Jay! I especially loved the note the bride gave her father. Quite moving.

  • Patty Diaz-AndradeJay- as Marcelino noted earlier, you will always have a special place in our hearts. I knew the day I stumbled upon your website that you were the photographer for us. But, you far exceeded any expectation we had for what these pictures would look like. You are talented beyond words. I am so grateful to have these memories as pictures of our big day, thanks to you. Thank you. Thank you.

  • Patty Diaz-AndradeThank you Aileen!!!! We were so happy to have you there, too! 🙂

  • Rossmery BarzeyThese pictures are simply stunning — such a wonderful account of a beautiful celebration! So happy I was there to share in the moment! <3

  • Isis DelgadoPatty, you look gorgeous as always and even more blissful and exuberant than ever. It looks like it was a perfect celebration. May you carry the joy of the day through all the days of your marriage. Lots of love!!

  • Priscilla Cabrerathanks for sharing these amazing pictures! Although I was not there phisically, I was in spirit and after seeing the photos I could feel like I was really there in person!

  • Blake VuBeautiful and amazing Patty Diaz-Andrade I’m soooo happy 4 u!

  • Jay Eadslikewise… you guys have a permanent place in my heart. it says a lot about people when they so graciously open their lives and families u to a random guy from Oregon. thankful to know you both

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